I had already noticed that Miss Johnnie Faye was wearing a soft pink blouse this past Sunday morning. She looks pretty in pink. Miss Helen was wearing a beautiful and unusual jacket which I have admired before. After church I overheard Miss Johnnie Faye say to Miss Helen: “Don’t you look pretty!”
With a smile and in a friendly way, Miss Helen responded: “I work at that looking pretty, don’t you? It’s getting harder and harder.”
When Ray and I were living in Mississippi, perhaps even before we had any children yet, a lady from a church a half hour away drove to our town once a week for several weeks to hold a class about being a good wife. I often remember things she said. I’ll start with the strangest one. She encouraged us to purchase pink light bulbs. That wasn’t easy in those days long before Internet marketing, so she even offered to order them for us. “Why pink light bulbs?” you may wonder. Because skin looks pretty in the light of a pink bulb. I did buy some then, but there hasn’t been a pink light bulb in our house for decades.
On a more practical level, our teacher encouraged us to look our best when our husbands arrived home in the evening. That isn’t something I can do since my husband works at home all day. For me, that means that I want to start every day looking my best.
“But shouldn’t our husbands love us and find us attractive no matter what we are wearing and how we look?”
Well, yes, they should, but I think “work[ing] at that looking pretty” is good advice. Opinions about what pretty is will vary from one mama to another and from one mama’s husband to another. I do try to look pretty for Ray, but I have come to a stage in my life when I also do it for myself. For me there are four main rules for looking pretty.
- One is modesty.
- The second is that looks should never be an idol.
- The third is that I try to cooperate with the way God made me so that I look my personal best.
- The fourth is that I want to bless people with how I look and not make them uncomfortable.
Every once in a while in the midst of encouraging you in your role as mamas, I want to encourage you as wives. When at all possible, our children need to live with their very own mama and daddy who have a great marriage. We can’t begin to control everything in our relationships with our husbands. We can, however, do some things. I think working at looking pretty is one that we can all do. Besides being good for our marriages, it is also a great example for our children.
She makes coverings for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.